Dating and Careers

This post was written by my good friend Angela, she’s just a woman so don’t be too harsh on her! (Just kidding!)

The idea of ‘not judging a book by its cover’ has been followed for far too long. That being said, judging someone who plays a serious role in your life need not be an ugly or nasty thing; in fact, it’s healthy and should be a vital process when it comes to dating.

Living in a society where women are encouraged to be empowered feminists, it is not surprising that to be critical of a man’s choice of career, or job is seen as being bitter. However, as independent as we now are, it is still important when dating that we ensure the men we are dating have a steady job that they can maintains in the future. After all, people often think that it is important to pair up with someone in your own socioeconomic class, or group. It is for this reason, that many women will seek out Male Escorts or avoid relationships all together as these days it is way too much hassle finding the right guy.

It cannot be denied, even if it is a generalization unfair to the male sex, that a man’s job is highly associated with his identity. That might very well be because of the generalization of “what you do is what you are.” I’m not saying that women don’t experience this too, but socially, and traditionally (be it a good or bad thing) it is perceived differently. Your partner is expected to have a good respectable job. My Grandmother used to say to me when I was (much) younger “You better not bring home a rubbish man“. Though this seems rather ambiguous, she did not mean the man could work as a refuse collector. But I digress, because we aren’t really dealing with that in this piece.

Having a great partner that will be kind and patient to you in those moments when he forgets that you’re not his employee or subordinate and you can’t make all the decisions will be invaluable to your love life’s long term success.

In his business dealings, driven and focused men are amazingly stubborn. And while this may help them in their business and negotiation, it does not help them nearly as much in their love lives, unfortunately.

Just make sure you know what you’re getting in to. Should you choose to go ahead and pursue a relationship with a career driven man, have expectations. Lots of expectations. For any person professional success and person fulfilment is necessary before having a successful love relationship. Being content in ‘what you do’ is a major consideration in anyone’s personal happiness, and the old saying “you can’t be good to someone else until you’re good to yourself” still rings true, does it not? Of course, there is the rare exception of the man who dreads each work day, suffers through it, then comes home and can find all of the happiness he needs right there.

Pearls: Do they have healing properties?

This article was written by a good friend of mine, Sheila Jones, a Gem Expert and Fortune Teller. She will be going through all the different ways pearls can “heal” us and help out daily lives. Please still seek the attention of a medical specialist/doctor if you have any health issues!

Pearls are globular cysts of a type of calcium mineral carbonate (mainly aragonite or an assortment of aragonite and calcite), that form within the tissue of molluscs as a defensive covering (known as nacre) as the consequence of an internal discomfort, like a grain of fine sand for example.

Most pearls available today don’t occur normally by natural means but are man-made or cultured by placing an unnatural irritant in to the mollusc shell to produce the pearl.

Cultured pearls and natural pearls can be recognised from imitation pearls by a simple test. Take the pearl and rub it (softly!) up against the edge of your an teeth. Cultured and natural pearls will feel somewhat tough, like fine sandpaper, due to the surface of natural nacre. Imitations will feel as soft as a wine glass because the top is moulded or coated on an even bead.

Cultured pearls come in many designs and colours. Pearls are usually a smooth iridescent white with suggestions of green or greyish, or iridescent dark-coloured with shades of light blue or violet. Cultured pearls have the same therapeutic attributes as the natural pearl.

Spiritually pearl soothes and heals the negativity and have difficulty in your daily life, surrounds negative energy with Light. Dissolves any negative energy being delivered to you, heals your own negative thought habits. It takes negativity out of your aura then fills your aura with restorative healing light, it helps people feel relaxed. It heals that negative internal voice and unconscious.

These gems improve sincerity, truth and commitment. They bring centring and a relaxing representation, as well as attune the wearer to the ebb and movement of life. They enhance faith, purity, knowledge, charity and personal integrity. Because of its watery and lunar elements, it helps balance our feelings and thoughts.

Pearls also help balance our body’s natural rhythms and hormone levels with lunar cycles. This natural stone provides you inner intelligence and help reinforce and nurture the development of love. They enlighten your brain and encourage and motivate the you, while assisting you to figure out how to love yourself more and, subsequently, love others more, as well. Pearl improves emotions and thoughts of good will and positive, uplifting thoughts. Pearls balance and heals all chakras. The pearl assists us to seek out higher knowledge and truth.

It is good for lung diseases such as tuberculosis, asthma, persistent long-term bronchitis. It helps the recovery of the heart and soul, kidneys, urinary tract and liver organ. Pearl offers a sedative and also laxative impact, neutralises poison, reduces acidity. Pearls assist in fertility, as well as in easing the discomforts of the birthing process.

They are used to take care of from simple eye illnesses, health problems to blood loss, fever and indigestion. Actually, the pearl works well in controlling your skin conditions rosacea and acne. It strengthens the nerves, the adrenal glands, the spleen and muscle mass. It can reduce stress and it’s really producing maladies, such as hypertension, headaches, and exhaustion. Pearls also help reduce allergy symptoms. They assist in the treating stomach pains and colds. You may be wondering, how much are pearls worth? Well not very much at all. Due to the wonders of Pearl Culturing, they are quite affordable for all.

Five ways to deal with Stress

If you’re feeling stressed out, whether its due to your job or by something else, the first thing to do to feel better is to find the cause.
The most counter productive thing you could do is turn to something unhealthy to help you cope, such as smoking, drinking or even eating.

“In life, there’s always a fix or solution to any problem,” says Professor Maxwell, an occupational health expert at the University of Ohio. “Not taking control of the issue and doing nothing about it will only make the problem worse.”
He goes on to say that, the keys to good stress management are building emotional fortitude, having a good social circle and adopting a positive outlook on life.

What you can do to address your stress

These are Professor Maxwell’s five stress-busting solutions:

Be active

Exercise won’t make your stress vanish, but it will decrease some of the emotion that you’re feeling, cleansing your thoughts and allowing you to deal with your problems more calmly.

Take control of the situation

There’s a fix to any problem. “If you remain passive and don’t do anything to fix the problem your stress will get worse,” says Professor Maxwell. “The feeling of losing control is one of the main causes of stress and lack of good health.”
The act of taking back control is in itself empowering and motivating, and it’s a crucial part of finding a fix that satisfies you and not someone else.

Connect with good people

A good social support circle of work colleagues, friends and family can easily ease your work troubles and help you see things in a different way.
“If you don’t connect with people, you won’t have support to turn to when you need help, which is very important in order to working towards getting better” says Professor Maxwell.
The activities we do with our friends will help us to relax and calm down. We often have a good laugh with them, which is an excellent stress reducer.
“Talking about your issues with a friend will also help you find solutions to your problems,” says Professor Maxwell.

Have me time

We work the longest hours, meaning we often don’t spend enough time doing things we really like doing.
“We all need to take some time for socialising, fun, relaxation or keeping in shape,” says Professor Maxwell.

He recommends setting aside a couple of days a week for some quality “me time” away from work, which could be adding to stress. “By keeping those two days, it means you won’t accidentally work overtime,” he goes on to say.

Challenge yourself more

Setting yourself goals and challenges, whether at work or outside, such as learning a new language or a new sport, helps to build confidence. This will help you deal with stress.

“By continuing to learn more, you become more resilient as a person,” says Professor Maxwell. “It equips you with knowledge and makes you want to do things rather than be passive and sit back.”